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Books of The Times – Exploring Lands of Erotic Fantasy and Their Reality in ‘The East, the West, and Sex,’ by Richard Bernstein – Review – NYTimes.com
Jun 8th

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An adventurous English friend named Belinda, searching some years ago for sensual ecstasy in the East, once described finding a special salon in upcountry Thailand, where she was invited to allow herself to be restrained quite naked on a cedar table and have three young female attendants gently apply a sweet-smelling unguent to her more delicate parts. The trio silently withdrew, bidding my friend to keep still. Seconds later she heard a door slide open, then a rushing sound, and felt the air itself throbbing with movement. She was then swiftly overcome by pleasing physical sensations of an almost unbearable intensity.
THE EAST, THE WEST, AND SEX
A History of Erotic Encounters
Illustrated. 325 pages. Alfred A. Knopf. $27.95.
She lifted her head slightly, and was just able to see why: portions of her body had become suddenly covered with thousands upon thousands of brilliantly colored captive butterflies. All of them were engaged in licking away the ointment with what felt, as she later said dreamily, like a million tiny tongues.
Things like this just don’t seem to happen in Dubuque or Stow-on-the-Wold. And as Richard Bernstein suggests in his provocative and intriguing book “The East, the West, and Sex,” it is tales like this that over the years have helped construct today’s notion of the East as a sensual and sexual paradise. Tales of the odalisque, the harem, the seraglio, the concubine, the geisha and the Kama Sutra have all become combined in the past century or so into a sweetly perfumed mélange of exoticism and eroticism, presenting “the Orient” as a realm of languor and loucheness, where concupiscent curds run in the streets and nostalgie de la boue is perfectly de rigueur.
Sex Drive: How Do Men and Women Compare?
Jun 6th
Birds do it, bees do it, and men do it any old time. But women will only do it if the candles are scented just right — and their partner has done the dishes first. A stereotype, sure, but is it true? Do men really have stronger sex drives than women?
Well, yes, they do. Study after study illustrates that men’s sex drives are not only stronger than women’s, but much more straightforward. The sources of women’s libidos, by contrast, are much more difficult to pin down.
It’s common wisdom that women place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. But women also appear to be heavily influenced by social and cultural factors as well.
via Sex Drive: How Do Men and Women Compare?.
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Teens And Oral Sex, Teens Are Having Lots Of Oral Sex | The Frisky
Jun 2nd
Parents! Lock your teenagers in their rooms! Especially the girls! “Good Morning America” has discovered that blow jobs are the new goodnight kiss! All across the country, teenagers are giving head and having sex parties! It’s not just the Catholic high schoolers (who are having anal sex in order to maintain their chastity) we need to pray for—it’s every single pubescent teen who’s figured out that you can have sex using just your mouth!

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Sigh. Yet another morning show segment designed to scare the crap out of parents by declaring a “new” trend that’s taking our nation’s youth on downward spiral towards hell. Teens having oral sex—is it really so new? I was a late bloomer so I didn’t give my first beej until I was 19 (in a stairwell at a bar!), but what about other 20 and 30-something women? Their teenage oral sexploits, after the jump…
via Teens And Oral Sex, Teens Are Having Lots Of Oral Sex | The Frisky.
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5 Solutions for a Lopsided Libido | Lifescript.com
May 31st
Your sex life used to sizzle, but lately the heat between the sheets has turned icy. The two of you may be suffering from a case of lopsided libidos. Find out how to get back in sync sexually. Plus, rate your sex drive with our quiz…
Douglas, a 30-something physician in central Florida, remembers a time in the not-so-distant past when he had rock ‘n’ roll sex with his wife. Before they married and before their daughter was born, sex was not only frequent but inventive.
But about three years into their relationship, he noticed a marked change. Things his wife once enjoyed started dwindling and eventually were off the menu completely.
via 5 Solutions for a Lopsided Libido | Lifescript.com.
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Craigslist’s Casual Encounters Section Draws Sexual Risk Takers Through Anonymity – NYTimes.com
Apr 20th

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THIS is it, Melvin thought: Craigslist is about to get me killed.
A recent divorcé who lacked the money and confidence for a conventional date, Melvin, 35, had been lured to a stranger’s apartment by the promise of anonymous sex. He had already done this at least a dozen times, using classified ads he had placed on the Casual Encounters section of Craigslist.com, with no problems.
But this time, all he found was a dark, scary room.
via Craigslist’s Casual Encounters Section Draws Sexual Risk Takers Through Anonymity – NYTimes.com.
14 Embarrassing Sex Questions – Answered! | Lifescript.com
Apr 11th
We rounded up sexual health experts to weigh in on subjects that women are often too red-faced to discuss with their gynecologists or girlfriends. Read on to get the lowdown on what’s really going on down low. And for even more sex ed, take our sexual health quiz…
via 14 Embarrassing Sex Questions – Answered! | Lifescript.com.
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The Growing Problem of Porn at Work – XBIZ.com
Mar 21st

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LOS ANGELES — With so much focus on the economy lately, it’s no wonder that the economics of worker productivity are also receiving considerable scrutiny — especially when it comes to viewing porn on company time.
Human Resources departments at companies worldwide are grappling with workplace wankers and the various issues surrounding their masturbatory malingering — from lost productivity to sexual harassment; from exposure to malware to liability over potentially illegal downloads, even long after they were thought to have been deleted by the user — along with the immense legal expenses some of these problems may result in.
While this observer suspects that an equal or greater amount of productivity is lost to instant messaging, email chains and other personal use of the Internet on company time, none of those venues makes for as sexy a headline as “sex.”
via The Growing Problem of Porn at Work – XBIZ.com.
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Sex Drive: How Do Men and Women Compare?
Mar 21st
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Birds do it, bees do it, and men do it any old time. But women will only do it if the candles are scented just right — and their partner has done the dishes first. A stereotype, sure, but is it true? Do men really have stronger sex drives than women?
Well, yes, they do. Study after study illustrates that men’s sex drives are not only stronger than women’s, but much more straightforward. The sources of women’s libidos, by contrast, are much more difficult to pin down.
It’s common wisdom that women place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. But women also appear to be heavily influenced by social and cultural factors as well.
via Sex Drive: How Do Men and Women Compare?.
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Stud or slut? Take your pick – Broadsheet – Salon.com
Mar 18th

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Today, the Daily Beast enlists two sexperts to answer an age-old question: Is it harder being a slut or a stud? The query, inspired by a report finding that there are “more sexual limitations on men,” results in a battle of the sexes. In one corner, we have Susannah Breslin, author of the Reverse Cowgirl blog, arguing that women have it worse. In the other corner, we have Grant Stoddard, author of “Working Stiff: The Misadventures of an Accidental Sexpert,” arguing that it’s men who get the raw deal. Le-et’s get ready to ro-oll between the sheets!
Men are not permitted to ask for their hair to be pulled or to be called a “dirty little whore” during sex
Breslin — who, full disclosure, is an e-mail pal of mine — comes out swinging: “Take a look at the young women who write openly about their sex lives online, and what you’ll find is that trailing along behind them is a line of rabid attackers looking to punish them for doing so,” she writes. “What, exactly, are these women being ostracized for — being sexual, experimenting sexually, or having the guts to put themselves out there as representatives of a generation of a women who don’t want to fit into preconceived boxes of ‘how they’re supposed to be’ in bed?” It seems to me they’re being punished for pursuing their own desires, being publicly sexual and announcing their sexual pursuits without shame.” She concludes, “Sure, women are freer to explore their sexuality — as long as it doesn’t threaten the male status quo.”
Stoddard takes his gloves off: “While I’m supposed to honor requests to slap, restrain, throttle, and enable any Sapphic whim a woman may wish to actualize, a libidinous digression from me means putting an already tattered reputation on the line.” Unlike women, men are not permitted to ask for their hair to be pulled or to be called a “dirty little whore” during sex, he argues. I’m not so sure that the freedom to be verbally denigrated in the bedroom is the most compelling argument for how good women have it, but his ultimate point is a good one: A straight man isn’t supposed to suggest any sexual play that challenges his manhood — whether it’s inviting another man into bed or being tied up and dominated. He’s also expected to be perpetually horny — if he fails at that, he’s declared to be gay or a failed male. Women, however, have been “getting freakier, particularly in more casual hook-ups.” He concludes that “women seem to have carte blanche to express every hue of their sexuality.”
via Stud or slut? Take your pick – Broadsheet – Salon.com.
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Sexual Stereotypes: When It Comes To Sex, There’s Enough Shame To Go Around
Mar 17th

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Sex writers Susannah Breslin and Grant Stoddard have columns on The Daily Beast purportedly debating a study that suggests women are more able to express deviations from so-called sexual norms in bed than men.
It’s probably unsurprising that they end up talking about completely different things. Breslin ends up talking mostly about how the public expression of those desires tends to earn women opprobrium, and Stoddard, an alt-sex writer for Nerve, ends up talking about how women with whom he has been intimate were either more inclined to express certain sexual proclivities to him than he was to them, or more apt to have them (he’s not clear which). They’re both sort of right, and both sort of wrong.
via Sexual Stereotypes: When It Comes To Sex, There’s Enough Shame To Go Around.
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