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My latest book is titled Dr. Ruth’s Top Ten Secrets for Great Sex (with Pierre A. Lehu, Jossey-Bass, 2009). The publishers timed it to come out around Valentine’s Day. All this is great marketing, but you know what? There really aren’t any secrets. I’m not saying that if people read this book they won’t learn ways of improving their sex life. When you’ve been a practicing sex therapist for many years and have answered people’s questions in all sorts of media for decades, you do know what to tell people when it comes to improving their sex life. But the problem is that no matter how many times you tell them, they don’t always listen. This book, and all the other ones that I’ve written and other experts have written don’t really have much in the way of new scientific advancements to reveal, but rather are filled with the same advice we’ve been repeating endlessly. But if people don’t accept that advice, then it’s no secret that many people are going to have a lousy sex life.

But since I want everyone to have terrific sex, I keep publishing books in the hopes that I’ll reach some people and get them to pay attention. Because the one secret there to having great sex is to pay attention to your sex life. If you and your partner have excellent communications and put some energy and effort into having sex, and make dates to have sex, and turn off the TV so that you have time to have sex, then you’ll have great sex. But if you think that great sex is going to tap you on the shoulder and say “Here I am,” then you’re going to have a very sad sex life.

I do have one other secret to reveal, that’s not even in the book because the research wasn’t done yet when I wrote it. If you’re an overweight male and you want to have great sex, then you must start losing that excess weight immediately.

Dr. Ruth Westheimer: Lose the Weight, Have Better Sex.

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