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Years ago, I met a film critic who was in New York on assignment. He was married. I was not. There was an immediate spark. Drinks led to dinner and eventually back to his hotel room, where he was perfectly comfortable doing everything but. He drew the line at having sex. That, to him, was too far.

“It’s not cheating if we don’t have intercourse,” he said.

via Chaste or Cheating? | Lifescript.com.

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In picking Judge Sonia Sotomayor, President Obama looked past her immaculate bio and the diversity she represents. In so doing, he also picked a Judge who did a couple things that will make it hard to peg her as liberal activist judge.

She has been well vetted. She was on the short list of candidates who were projected to be likely Kerry picks for the Supreme Court were he to become president in 2004.

Moreover, Sotomayor “saved baseball” and she ended a controversial nude photo shoot of 100 people in New York, helping then-Mayor Rudy Giuliani get out of a major political conundrum.

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MARY-Louise Parker is still sulking over her nude scene from last season’s “Weeds” finale.

She claims that she was “goaded” into doing a scene involving a lingering shot of her naked breasts while she was in a bathtub.

“I didn’t think I needed to be naked, and I fought with the director about it, and now I’m bitter,” the star of the Showtime series says in the June issue of More magazine.

via MARY-LOUISE PARKER’S GOADED INTO SHOWING BREASTS – New York Post.

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Former New York Governor Eliot Spitzer appeared on “The Rachel Maddow Show” on Tuesday night for a lengthy interview about the current financial crisis and the bank bailouts, as well as his reasons for stepping down from office amidst the escort scandal and any he regrets he may have.

Spitzer had some pointed criticism for the way the Obama administration has been handling the bank bailouts. When Spitzer was attorney general of New York, he prosecuted AIG and other Wall Street banks, and Maddow asked him if he saw a connection between those prosecutions and what led to the current crisis…

In part two of the interview, Spitzer discussed why he resigned the governorship when the escort scandal erupted (it was what was right for the state and his family), as well as answering Maddow’s blunt question: “Do you believe prostitution should be legal?” Spitzer’s first answer was “No, these are not victimless crimes,” but then he demurred, saying “perhaps I’m not the right person to pass judgment at this time.” It should be noted that while prostitution is illegal, no charges were ever filed against Spitzer.

Rachel Maddow, Eliot Spitzer Interview: Spitzer Discusses Financial Crisis And Past Escort Scandal (VIDEO).

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After the massage parlors, after the affair, after the scandalous book that nearly broke up his family, Gay Talese is writing a new opus—about his relationship with his wife.

t isn’t until our third interview that I notice Gay Talese has been sitting underneath a painting of a naked woman with a rainbow coming out of her vagina. We are in the otherwise staid living room of his townhouse in the East Sixties, the home where he and his wife, Nan, the publisher of Nan A. Talese/Doubleday books, have lived for half a century. In fact, in June they will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary, an impressive milestone for any couple, but perhaps few more so than this one. This legendary literary marriage—in all of its baroque complexity—has taken place entirely under this roof. It is here where they began their life together as a couple in their mid-twenties, when the five-story brownstone was like a tenement and Gay lived in 3F, a studio they both still refer to as his “bachelor pad”; this is where they raised their two daughters, Pamela and Catherine, and slowly took over every apartment in the building before finally buying it in 1973; this is where they have held innumerable book parties for Nan’s celebrated authors; and this is where Gay has done much of the writing—the historic Esquire pieces, the best sellers with biblical titles—that brought him fame, fortune, and no small amount of personal agony.

What’s absurd about the fact that I missed the rainbow vagina painting is that the subject of our conversation is, in so many words, sex. This month, Ecco re-published Thy Neighbor’s Wife, with a foreword by Katie Roiphe (along with a new edition of Honor Thy Father, foreword by Pete Hamill). The book, originally published in 1980, is about the sexual revolution, which Talese believed would be the most important cultural shift in decades, and which he spent most of the seventies intimately researching. It’s the research itself—particularly Talese’s tendency to take the participant-observer concept to the extreme—that turned out to be the unintended legacy of the project. “If you want to write about orgies,” says Talese, who at 77 is still slim and handsome, “you’re not going to be in the press box with your little press badge keeping your distance. You have to have a kind of affair with your sources. You have to hang out! I wanted to write about sexuality and the changing definition of morality. Maybe if I had put that in a subhead on the cover I might have gotten a better hearing.”

Instead, the book garnered him the worst reviews of his career (while also making him millions—the $2.5 million he was paid for film rights remained a record until 1991). Part of the reason critics were so appalled was because while Talese was gallivanting promiscuously and publicly, he was married, and not just to some anonymous wife but to Nan Talese, an important book editor at Random House whom many of the critics knew personally, professionally, or socially. Gay writes in his new afterword that in the immediate aftermath of the book’s publication, Nan accompanied him on talk shows “to explain that our marital love had remained unthreatened while I conducted research in New York massage parlors and a hedonistic nudist colony in Los Angeles”—which is only half true. As he has been telling me in exquisite detail, their marriage was pushed to the breaking point during this time. And so was his career.

via Gay Talese Examines His Very-Public, 50-Year Marriage for Upcoming Book — New York Magazine.

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Despite a threat from Islamists, two Pakistani brothers stealthily manufacture fetish and bondage wear, earning more than $1 million a year from their Western customers.

via Facebook | Videos Posted by The New York Times: World: A Pakistani Underworld.

Tera Patrick

(News release: VAN NUYS, CA ) – It has nothing to do with the change of seasons or global warming, but Middletown New York is hot and getting hotter this month. Thanks to the most popular pornstar on the planet Tera Patrick and Jenna’s Gentleman’s Club, April is going to be a scorching month.

Tera will appear at Jenna’s for a special one-night engagement on April 30th. Storming the stage at 10pm and midnight, Tera will give the crowd at Jenna’s something to remember with her world-renowned stage show.

“I always do my best to put on a great show,” says Tera. “But I am going to make sure this one is something special. Jenna’s is a great club with hot girls, a fantastic vibe and excellent ownership. It’s a great place to dance and I am going to make sure to give fans something they won’t forget.”

Jenna’s Gentleman’s Club is the perfect place for business or pleasure. They offer top-shelf liquor and beer, brand new champagne rooms and new expanded hours to meet all of your adult entertainment needs. Now open from 1pm to 4am seven days a week and featuring new dancers every day, Jenna’s is always the place to be. With Tera on board for kick-ass one-night engagement it will be a spectacular night to remember.

Jenna’s Gentleman’s Club is located at 7 Canal St. in Middletown NY. (845) 344-1733 www.jennasgentlemensclub.com

Tera Patrick at Jenna's Gentelemen's Club poster

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Since she was 11 months old, when she began her career by appearing in a commercial for Playskool, actress Hayden Panettiere consistently worked on television and in feature films. Her mother – a former actress – thought she would get some nice baby pictures out of seeing her only daughter in commercials, which precipitated bringing her on auditions. At four years-old, she landed a regular role as Sarah Roberts on the daytime soap opera “One Life to Live” (ABC, 1968- ), where she stayed until 1996.

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NEW YORK – Second Life is getting a little less steamy for people who want to use the virtual world for a myriad of PG-rated experiences, such as taking classes, prototyping buildings or designing virtual goods.

For those who don’t, Second Life is moving adult-oriented content to a new, X-rated “continent” so they can continue to frolic as their heart desires.

Linden Lab, the company behind Second Life, was to announce the changes Wednesday as part of a broader move to let users customize the site’s content. The changes will start going into effect in June.

via Second Life to let users filter adult content – Games – msnbc.com.

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To Networks It’s Necessary to Avoid Offense, but Rules Seem Arbitrary to Some

by Brian Steinberg

Published: April 20, 2009

NEW YORK (AdAge.com) — Viewers watching the debut of NBC‘s “Southland” heard one cop tell another to “shut the fuck up” and another jokingly tell a cop working undercover as a prostitute to “show me your tits.”

While NBC bleeped out the words, it was abundantly clear what was being said. But the very fact that the network felt the need to put a semigloss on harsh language — even though it appeared in a gritty drama that initially aired at 10 p.m. on a Thursday — epitomizes the confused TV world in which we live. Depending on whether you are watching cable or broadcast, prime time or late night, reality or drama, such words are sometimes considered OK, other times strictly off-limits, and still other times acceptable if hidden with a bleep (which arguably attracts even more attention).
To some it’s archaic, given the growing use of video on demand and web viewing, which abide by no such rules, and indeed there is a sense that standards are changing. More TV outlets are putting together more-sophisticated dramas, which gives them license to use grittier language. The average cable subscriber can hear a dirty word while watching subscription-only HBO or even ad-supported FX. Reality programming that features real people speaking their minds has become so prevalent that harsh language — or bleeped-out swearing — is relatively common. Watching Gordon Ramsay on Fox’s “Hell’s Kitchen” or “Kitchen Nightmares” sometimes resembles taking a hearing test.

via Does Bleeping Profanity on TV Make Any F—King Sense? – Advertising Age – MediaWorks.

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